Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)

Been thinking about the "pervasive" part of PDD.  I used to believe that if we could just get rid of the autism, Noah would be a delight to live with, a success at life, the person he was meant to be.  Then along came Stephen Shore, the famous Aspie, who said that autism is so pervasive, you cannot separate the person from the autism.  I was depressed for years after reading that, which I suspect is the opposite effect he wanted to have.  Last nite Noah was cuddled up next to me, and we were talking about books and music, and I started thinking about how lovely it would be if this was the "real" Noah.  Of course these moments in time are so fleeting, so rare, and soon enough he was back to his usual self, blasting the sound on his computer, being nasty to us and torturing the dog (that's the next blog post).  All of it just for attention, which by the way he does get 24/7.  I hate autism.

On Noah's 18th Birthday

The child is now an adult, well in the eyes of the State, anyway.  Of course, chances are that this "adult" will always be a child, emotionally, but unfortunately, his needs now encompass both those of a child and those of an adult. 

At this point, four days after his birthday, I'm extremely busy with all these must-be-done-now issues:

• Crisis tool -  pending (for four months and counting) at APD for more behavioral help
• PCA - getting the right person hired by CDC+ to work with Noah on the weekends
• Social Security - getting him declared disabled
• Guardianship - getting paperwork filed, and everything that entails, to declare me his guardian
• School - he's going to be a senior next year (yipes!) have to work with IEP team on his schedule

And then, when all that's over, I can focus on the future.


What will he do when the yellow bus no longer comes to the door in the morning?
Where will he live?
Who will take care of him if/when something happens to me?

And the biggest conundrum of all:

How will his future be impacted by the simple, inescapable fact that there's no money ?  No trust fund, no life insurance policy, no savings, no assets of any kind except for a house encumbered twice over and whose value keeps dropping?

Noah's sibling will most likely not be a presence in his life as they both age.  And I am aging at astronomical speed.  Not much time...